Getting Help: Quitting Porn for Good
This series began with a post called, “Porn by the Numbers“, in which I shared just a few stats that shed light about the role of pornography in America today. Long story short, pornography, which cheapens and deadens the God-given design for pure sex between a husband and a wife, is being consumed by the boatload.
If you’ve ever tried to move away from a bad habit and toward a new normal, you know you’re going to meet resistance. When you step out of the darkness and into the light, you can experience great freedom. However, you may also step into what I call ” the heavy gravity zone”. There are many reasons it’s difficult.
- First of all, if you’ve been consuming porn, do not be surprised when you find it difficult to stop, even if you know you’re doing the right thing. That’s normal. If quitting a bad habit was easy, no one would smoke, drink too much, or overeat.
- There are physiological reasons that it’s difficult to stop. Your body will physically crave the endorphin dump that occurs while being stimulated by pornographic images.
- Then there is the less-obvious but still powerful force of habit. If viewing porn is what you’ve always done when you’re all alone, then you’re going to have to find something else to do.
- Finally, there are spiritual reasons it’s difficult to stop a sinful activity (yes, that’s an old word, but it includes all behavior that’s contrary to God’s plan).
You’ll need a strong dose of encouragement, a support system, and most of all, God’s power to help make the change last.
If you’d like to move away from porn and into a life of purity, this post is for you. Here’s how:
- Encouragement for the Quitter
You’re not the first person to get wrapped up in something you wish you didn’t. And you won’t be the last. The good news is that you don’t have to stay where you’re at. Today could be the first day on your road to purity. Take the next steps, and you’ll be well on the way.
- Make the big change. Take action.
Good intentions are not enough. So stop telling yourself “I can do this” and delaying your recovery. You can’t without taking these steps. What kind of concrete actions do you need to take in order to change your behavior? Do you need to fast from your the internet altogether? Is it time to install accountability software
on your PC?
- Get Your Support System in Place
You cannot do this alone. No one can. If you could have, you would have already. You need the support of a few people who will love you unconditionally, support you relentlessly, and speak plain truth into your life when you need it. Your spouse, trusted friend or your pastor can help you. Is it time to (gulp) have that first difficult conversation where you ask someone for help, prayer and accountability?
You need all the help you can get. The good news is that God is willing and able to give you exactly what you need. No matter what you’ve done, what you’ve seen, or where you’ve been, God offers forgiveness through Jesus Christ.
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. (1 John 1:9)
What’s even better than forgiveness? The power to lead a different life than you did yesterday. Paul, a man who experienced tremendous change in his life, tells us what’s available for the believer:
“…his incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is the same as the mighty strength 20 he exerted when he raised Christ from the dead…” (Ephesians 1:19-20)
So there it is.
Simple, difficult steps.
Take one, then the other. Believe that God has made a life of purity available for you, and step in his direction. It won’t be easy, but it will be worth it.
Read the Whole Series:
- Porn by the Numbers
- Why Porn is Killing You
- Telling God about your Porn Habit
- Telling your Spouse about your Porn Habit
- Telling your Trusted Friend about your Porn Habit
- How to Get Help: Quitting Porn for Good